gillydasilva

One of the biggest misconceptions about grief is that time heals it. I don't believe that's true. Time doesn't heal grief; it simply teaches us how to live around it. The grief we acknowledge gradually softens, but the grief we avoid has a habit of waiting patiently in the background until we're forced to face it. No matter how busy we keep ourselves or how many distractions we create, grief has an extraordinary way of catching up with us. After hosting divorce and grief retreats for women...

One of the questions I'm asked most often is, "How long does it take to heal from divorce?" The truth is that there isn't a simple answer. I've met people who are still angry and bitter twenty years after their divorce, and I've met others who have gone on to create fabulous new lives for themselves within a few years. That's because healing isn't determined by how much time has passed. It's determined by what you choose to do with that time. One of the reasons I feel so strongly about this...

One of the biggest misconceptions about divorce is that you're grieving the person. Of course there is sadness when a marriage ends, but looking back on my own experience, I realised that wasn't what I was grieving the most. What I was really grieving was the future I thought I was going to have. During my marriage, I spent hours searching for a large family apartment in Lisbon. It wasn't a fantasy or a passing idea. It was something we had talked about and planned for years. I genuinely...